Remember back when a field trip meant everything?
Although I feel like it’s a phrase that’s been used a million times, I still remember the first time someone told me, “It’s better to beg for forgiveness than ask for permission.” It was an executive at ESPN and remember him saying it with sly look in his eye, as if we were getting away with something. And maybe we were.
Take a second and go back to your elementary school days. For months on end during the school year, the routine was the same… you rode a big yellow school bus in the morning, you worked your way through the same structured class schedule every day, the same teachers taught the same lessons about history and math and science that had been taught to the kids last year and the years before that, and you ate the same boring lunch in the same cafeteria.
But there was one glimmering day that stood out like no other. A bastion of hope to escape this brick fortress, if only for a day: The Field Trip.
This was the day the decrepit yellow bus turned into a chariot. As a boy growing up 15 minutes south of Boston, that meant a place like the Museum of Science, the New England Aquarium, or Boston Common. With the bus’ engine struggling along the expressway instead of small town side roads, the city loomed in the distance like Oz.
But there was one crucial element: The permission slip from your parents giving the go-ahead. You could forget your lunch, forget your bus pass, or forget your homework, but you better not forget that permission slip.
In fact, there’s a Simpsons episode where Bart is having a bad day and forgets his permission slip, and while the entire class goes on a field trip to a chocolate factory, he has to stay behind and spend the day with Principal Skinner. Not fun.
But those days are now in the rearview mirror, with school replaced with work. Yet how many people go through the repetitive scene I’ve just described, moving from their school life to their work life?
– Instead of the bus, they sit in traffic for hours on end.
– Instead of old history lessons, they go through the motions of meetings, calls, and deadlines
– What the field trip was to school, a weekend is to work.
It’s no way to live.
But the truth is, as an adult, you don’t need a permission slip to do something you love.
Here are 4 case studies:
is an author, investor, entrepreneur and the co-founder of reddit.com, one of the most popular sites on the internet. He didn’t take his management degree and grab the first full-time job he could get after graduating.
Far from it. Instead, he found himself with friend Steve Huffman in the first ever session with Y-Combinator, a startup incubator. No one gave him permission to start his own company, and he didn’t ask. With his hard work and a little luck, the duo sold the company to Conde Nast, which sets Alexis up to do something he loves even more: investing new companies that are breaking the rules.
was working for a company 5 years ago that most people associate with cookies, not careers… the Girl Scouts of America. After supporting a community of 15,000 girls, 5,000 volunteers, 75 staff, and making a huge impact on the organization, it was time to move from Southern California to New York City, and think even bigger.
She is now the Executive Director of NY Tech Meetup, a 33,000-member non-profit organization and the largest Meetup in the world, helping to build a sustainable and diverse technology industry in New York.
DID start out on the traditional path, working long hours as a video producer and director. Then one day, he simply wrote his own permission slip, deciding not to take a day off, but a year off.
In an interview with CNN in 2012, he said, “Frankly I was burnt out. I’d been constantly working nights until midnight, until 2 in the morning, weekends and I wasn’t getting my creative juices … so after having seen Stefan Sagmeister’s talk on ‘The power of time off,’ I decided to save up enough money over the course of about two years and took a year off so that I could travel, spend more time with my family and pursue my own creative ideas.”
Along the way, he did something interesting that would alter the course of his life. He took a one second video of what he was doing every single day. He says, it “originally started out as a way for me to chronicle my year off from work … but I realized that it was helping me in many more ways.”
His project led to a TED talk, which led to an app to help others do the same, called one second every day.
wanted to be an actress since the age of 6. After majoring in musical theater at NYU, she lived the life, performing everywhere from small towns and cruise ships to an appearance on Saturday Night Live.
But when the difficult life of auditions and unknowns grew tiresome, she tried to get a “real” job. She really did. She went through seven traditional jobs in four years, until one day declaring “Enough! I refuse to accept that there is nothing else out there that I’m going to love doing!”
As she explains on her website, “I enrolled in a Career Change Workshop at NYU, and through a series of personality tests, exercises, and conversations with my classmates, I realized that I wanted to help others find their own path, especially “creative types” that thought they wanted one thing their whole life and now have to rewrite their plans. I wanted to help them figure out what they wanted to be When They Grow Up.”
Today, while you’ll still occasionally find Michelle performing on the stages of New York, by day she is the When I Grow Up Coach, coaching creative women how to get out of their soul-sucking jobs and into work that feels like play.
If you’re reading this at work right now, snap out of the memory of that trip to the Museum of Science as a kid. If most days you truly enjoy your work, fantastic. But if not, maybe it is time to give yourself permission to do something more interesting.
Reboot Workshop: If you’re in New York and interested in hearing more about the stories of Alexis, Cesar, Jessica, and Michelle, come see them speak at my Reboot Workshop on Tuesday night, October 1, 2013.
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